Why do I get to be on a high horse and “tell” people how to handle their financial lives? What makes me qualified?
It would be disingenuous to say I’m smarter or an expert. What I really want is to share my experiences, so you can either not make the same mistakes I made, or fix them quicker and with less stress.
Eight years ago I was wrapping up grad school (MBA) with $15,000 of credit card debt, $30,000 in student loans from grad school, and still owed $5,000 for my undergrad loans. I needed a car so took on a $12,000 loan for a Plymouth Neon that my dad had to cosign for me. I did have a job…one that paid significantly less than average for an MBA student. I was freshly divorced and spent money for solace - money I obviously didn’t have. My last quarter of school started with the Financial Aid office contacting me to let me know that they had overloaned me money and I had to pay $1,500 back immediately, plus not receive any money for the final quarter. I had to borrow money from my parents. Bleak, all things considered.
Now the good news - I loved my job-to-be. I took it, not for the money (obviously), but for the people I met while interviewing. They were all so genuinely excited about coming to work everyday that it was contagious. Enjoy what you do and enjoy the people you do it with - the money will take care of itself. I still work for the same company and still love being here.
More good news - I righted myself from my self-destructive behavior. I put a solid budget in place, including some for “fun” each month. Since this was going to be a long-haul fix, I didn’t want to jeopardize everything by being too strict and falling jumping off the wagon because of it. I maxed out my employer’s match on our 401(k) plan. Every extra penny went straight to the credit cards or paying back my parents for the loan. After a couple of years, things were looking up - the credit card balances were almost eradicated and my habits had been changed for the better.
I got lucky and met Mo, whom I ended up marrying. She showed me I was still a babe as far as being frugal. I still am, compared to her. She helped me squeeze even more out of each paycheck.
I borrowed money from my brother at a lower rate than I was paying for the undergrad loan and credit cards. His $8,000 got paid back in less than a year. Despite the old maxim not to lend or borrow money from family and friends, I’ve had good experiences borrowing from family twice. I believe it’s okay as long as it’s undertaken seriously (i.e. it isn’t free money), you treat them as good or better than you would other creditors, and you pay them back on as accelerated a schedule as possible.
I kept the car loan for five full years since the interest rate was 1.9% and we had an emergency fund earning more than that in mutual funds. The graduate school loan that initially had a 25-year payment schedule was paid off in seven. Now the only debt we carry is our mortgage.
It’s been a slow, long process - one I never care to repeat. That’s why I exhort people to not take on the debt in the first place, or, if they have it, to discharge it as quickly as possible.